October 2022 Dealing with Difficult People Newsletter

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Last month we discussed Keeping Our Children Safe. This month we
will discuss one of the articles that was published in Canadian magazines.


I am man – hear me

“My husband snores so loudly that I can’t even be
on the same floor as he is, let alone sleep in the same bed as he does. This
still doesn’t give me a good sleep because I keep reading about sleep apnoea
and the danger he might be in if he has it. What can I do to make him realize
that we have a serious problem?”

Take heart – snoring
has noble origins that go back to prehistoric days. For those who MUST put up
with snorers, this knowledge probably won’t make up for the hours of sleep
they’ve missed. Nor will it make up to the snorers who’ve been elbowed, yelled
at and even kicked out of their own beds.

A recent study
suggests that we shouldn’t hit a snoring man, because:

a) He might hit back!

b) In his own way he
may be protecting you!

That roof-jarring
commotion may be the remains of an ancient protective device that’s outlived
its use. Some believe that male hormones may be the culprit, for men snore far
more, and far louder than most women. In addition, snoring occurs during a person’s
period of deepest sleep, when their conscious mind is least aware of its
surroundings and when the snorer is most vulnerable.

But pray tell, why do
men snore so much louder than women? Well, there is an explanation. When our
human ancestors left the safety of the jungle and ventured onto the
materializing tundra some five million years ago, sleep proved to be one of
man’s most defenceless times of the day. So nature stepped in, and provided men
with a unique defence mechanism. It enabled men to utter the earth-shattering
noises they practice nightly. By mimicking the sounds of their most common
predators (the carnivorous nocturnal cats and hyenas), early man could
broadcast throughout the night: “Hear
me roar! Leave us alone or you’ll have to contend with a mighty warrior!”

That knowledge
probably isn’t going to help modern men and women (except to give them a
chuckle or two). So, what is one to do to stop the din and bring peace to homes
once again? Many resort to unusual treatments such as taping a tennis ball
between the snorer’s shoulder blades. Others give a sharp elbow to shock the
person into retreating from the offensive object. Some resort to taping their
mouths so they can’t breathe through their mouths. Some resort to sleeping
sitting up by piling up to six pillows behind them. Most of these remedies
provide only temporary relief.

Then what works? Start
with a thorough medical. People who snore usually do so because there’s an
obstruction to the free flow of air in their breathing passages, often caused
by excessive tissue in the uvula and soft palate near their throat. A new laser
treatment can eliminate snoring in most patients by using a technique that
burns away tissue in the passages at the back of the mouth and nose, reshaping
and reforming the openings which allows for greater airflow. After three to
five 10-minute office visits under local anaesthesia, 85 to 90 per cent of
patients given the laser treatment stop snoring. Most find the treatment an
almost painless process.

Far more serious than
the snoring itself is “sleep
which occasionally accompanies snoring. Often, this distinct,
rhythmic form of snoring (four or five times in quick succession, then a 20- to
40- second pause, then a new eruption) results from a blockage of the snorer’s
air passages. This can be caused when the person’s tongue falls back in the
mouth and their throat muscles relax. They lack the ability to sleep and
breathe regularly at the same time.

Their snores are
actually the brain rousing itself, so their body is stimulated to gasp for air.

People with short,
receding jaws are prone to this condition. Many sufferers have fat necks that
narrow the throat passages further.   The
first treatment prescribed in those cases is weight loss.   There are also medications that promote
regular breathing, and small nasal masks work with some patients. Put on at
bedtime, the mask is connected by a tube to a miniature blower that forces air
into the nose to keep breathing passages open.

A simple operation to
cut away tissue lining at the back of the throat, remedies most cases. Extreme
cases, however may require a tracheotomy. 
If he snores constantly, or snore and feels good in the morning, he
probably doesn’t have apnoea.)

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She has written over 60 books that can all be ordered via Amazon Books
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