Last month we discussed the release of my latest book entitled: Survival Skills for Supervisors and Managers – Guidelines for Business Success.This month we will discuss a topic covered in Roberta Cava’s book entitled: Keeping Our Children Safe
I’m probably going to stir up some people with this
newsletter, but felt I needed to address this issue.
Self-harm is linked
to abuse, unwanted pregnancy and parental divorce. One in seventeen children is
believed to hurt or self-harm itself. Behind these children is often a family
in distress. Self-harm is the intentional cause to harm one’s own body. These
include: deliberate self-harm, self-injury, self-mutilation, self-abuse,
self-wounding, self-inflicted violence, para-suicide, non-fatal acts, and wrist
The person has low
self-esteem and low self-worth. Self-harm includes:
Burning skin by physical means using heat.
Burning skin by chemical means using caustic
Punching hard enough to cause bruises.
Hair pulling from head, eyelashes, eyebrows and
Poisoning by ingesting small amounts of toxic
substances to cause discomfort or damage.
Insertion of foreign objects.
Excessive nail biting to the point of bleeding
and ripping cuticles.
Excessive scratching by removing top layer of
skin to cause a sore.
Gnawing at flesh.
Wound interference to prevent wounds from
healing thus prolonging the effect.
Tying ligatures around the neck, arms or legs
to restrict the flow of blood.
Medication abuse without intention to die.
Illegal drug use.
Cutting and burning are among the most common forms of self-harm. Those
who smoke and drink excessively might believe they are not consciously harming
themselves, but they are.
There is also a
strong correlation between eating disorders and self-harm. This is due to the fact
that starvation, binge-eating and self-induced vomiting, overuse of laxatives
and diuretics, are forms of self-harm, as are starvation, binge-eating and
However, there are
other forms of self-harm that we are seeing in many teen-agers. These are:
Tattoos: Having a small significant tattoo that has a
special meaning to the owner is acceptable, but many take this to the extreme
and this is another form of self-harm. Some could be naked, and one would think
that they were fully dressed because of the excess of tattoos. How these
individuals will look when they are seniors makes me shudder. Many even tattoo
their neck, faces and hands so people will look at them. If I were an employer,
I would refuse to hire these people because of their low self-esteem level.
Piercing: Infection is possible in any body piercing. For decades people
have had single ear piercing, but now I see up to ten piercings in each ear.
Some slowly increase the size of the piercing by placing larger and larger
steel or acrylic plugs in the lower cartilage of their ears until some of the
holes are up to 1.5 cm in circumference – some with a huge hole in the middle.
When I see a person with a nose ring, I immediately think of bulls that are
controlled by their master who put a rope through the nose ring to control the
Then there are
piercings in private parts of the body that must irritate the owner 24 hours a
day. Again, why would anyone do this to themselves?
And why someone
would go through the pain of having their tongue pierced is beyond me.
Potential side effects of a tongue piercing include infection, disease
transmission, excessive bleeding and nerve damage. Another possible side effect
is endocarditis, which results when bacteria enters the bloodstream and the heart
or its valves, become inflamed. Bacteria that breeds around the piercing can
cause bad breath. Documented complications include infection causing brain and
heart abscesses, hepatitis B and C, HIV, TB, and tetanus infections. Swelling
of the tongue could cause an airway obstruction.
Roberta Cava is
a best-selling author of non-fiction books. In total she has written 48 books; seven of them fiction and 41 non-fiction. She lives on the Gold Coast of
Queensland in Australia.
To order her
Go to amazon.com then click ‘Books’ and under ‘search’ put ‘Roberta Cava’ (which will bring up all of her books).
To contact Roberta Cava or Cava
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